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When I chose this title for my blog I thought I will be representing all Pakistani housewives, with some wonderful recipes and some useful tips. My blog in my thoughts had all the colors of Pakistan, its beauty, its fashions, its people, its poetry but I am yet to share all this with you. In coming days, I hope to show you a glimpse of my beloved country whose face has lost its shine, in the media and maybe in reality too. But this does not mean the people of Pakistan are less loving, less hospitable, less colorful now than what they used to be.

Let me show you a picture of  a Pakistani household first. There is a grandfather (we call him dada jan) and a grandmother (dadi jan), and both these elders are not only respected and loved, but are the source of strength, stability and love for the whole family. Kids of the family have their dada jan, dadi jan, ammi (mom), abbu (dad) to guide, love and care but there are a whole lot of other people who make their lives complete. There are phupos (dad’s sisters), chachus (dad’s brothers), mamus (mom’s bros), khalas (mom’s sisters). Living together means sharing each others pleasures, compromising with each other, overcoming our personality differences. We manage some success in the above but all can’t be sweet!!! So our lives are a little spicy too…..

We will talk about all this and more….

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  • Yasir Imran

    Nice to see a representation of Pakistani housewives
    hope to see more nice articles

  • Le Mystique

    You have a good blog. All the best.

  • Sean


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    I realize that you are home decor-Contemporary Furniture connoisseur :) I’d like to hear your opinion/feedback on our products. Also, it’d be swell if you can place our link on your blog.

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  • saad

    Surely its not a blog run by a pakistani housewife.Its an adventure of some pakistani problogger

    • phw

      Interesting…….What brought you to this conclusion????

    • Asma Siddiqui

      A House wife can be a pro at many things and if blogging is her thing, you are right she is a pro and doing a great job.
      great stuff here Phw…:)

  • bodda

    nice blog. i like how you put things together. the everyday life as it is…

    and thanks for yr recipes as well…

    • phw

      Thanks a lot….your positive feedback will go a long way. I was probably down and out but will start blogging again, inshallah. :)

  • Jalal HB

    I saw this blog and was really impressed by its substance, layout and approach. I am new at blogging and this blog certainly provides me an insight of better blogs and blogging approach.

  • shirazi

    I am Pakistani House Husband, sort of, but no where near to such excellent resource. Nice.

  • is best pakistani website,its a complete website,

  • British_Muslim

    Really enjoy reading your blog, keep it up.

    • abid


  • Tahir

    Dear Phw… will you please dare to write about the conditions of poor womens, their problems and the luxury being availed by our white collared aunties…

  • Rashid

    Ms Phw is talking about an ideal Pakistani houseold. However, these ideal houseolds are not always ideal with all the intra family issues and problems.

    We also should talk about families which are surviving in today’s materialistic social setup….

    • phw

      Exceptions and ideals do exist….believe me.

  • c. wetzel

    Responding usually is not my thing, but i have spent an hour on the weblog, so thanks for the hot information .

  • wadaan khan

    Dear ma;am,

    will you please throw light on those house wives also whose only aim is to torture husbands, make a mockery of the home, shout and constantly violate the rights of husbands. Is it taken for granted that the women will always have free hand to do whatsoever they feel and pique the husband’s glory. And the poor guy, for his own limitations and compulsions stands hostage of marrying that woman, who has a protection from our society because she is a famine gender.


    a husband, facing a psycho nature wife, day in and out

    • phw

      Mr Wadaan Khan,
      No rational human being will shout, insult or torture people around him/her. I have a few questions before giving up on her….

      1-Her actions today “maybe” are based on the treatment she may have recieved on entering the new household.
      2-Just sit and think why she is doing this? Review your attitude towards her.
      3-If she has all the above traits from day 1 then don’t you think mental illness should also be treated the way we treat our cold and cough, by consulting a doctor! Is the social taboo of going to a psychologist greater then the hell in which people tend to spend their lives.
      She may need professional help!!! and who can help her out more than her life partner!!! The person going through this is unable to accept or help herself.
      What do u say??

  • wadaan khan

    I don’t intend getting into a tit for tat debate. Not every woman is a “born sufferer” neither every male is a “right’s molester”. The problem with modern women is that they have abandoned everything that the lady of yesteryear would do. I remember our moms would clean the house, wash the linen, fix dinner and lunch beside breakfast for all our brothers and sisters, sew table covers and handkerchiefs from cut pieces, attend all social functions and invite relatives as well in our home for our functions. she was also fully involved in our homework and help us whatever she could. Now the cook cooks, the driver drives her everywhere, functions are at hotels and restaurants, the tutor comes for tutions, clothes are stitched by tailor master, table cloths etc come from Chen-one, all the day cable TV brings in rotten Indian stuff and at the end of the day, the wife says that she needs rest and recreation since she is too tired. You say something and the commotion is on

    • phw

      You are right…..still ladies complain all the time but we cannot generalize.
      I have seen ladies doing every single chore u have mentioned and that too happily coz it brings a sense of accomplishment to some…..anyways….good luck!

    • Mohammad Qamar

      You are absolutely right, ladies must be educated by their parents that she must learn to live within budget. it is very difficult fro male to bear expenditure by doing one job in Pakistan, wives must be careful regarding use of food stuff, electricity, etc
      1) it is made available after burning mid night oil of man
      2) every human being will be accountable on the day of judgment


  • Mahmood ur Rehman

    I fully endorse views of Mr. Wadaan khan and agree that present day wrath on our society is because of these modern day women who perform a little towards betterment of the homes and instead make lot of fuss…well said Mr Wadaan even though moderator didn’t support you coz she also is a woman, so let us make our own site…the HOUSE WIFE’S SUFFERERS SITE….what do u say

    • phw

      :))) I am sure a lot of men will join u 2
      but majority of women still spend their lives working to make others lives comfortable. They are the backbone of the family and man is the head of the family. Unfortunately the head is not as strong and capable as the men of previous generations were. They are the captain of the ship , they should should keep every member of the crew in its due place and get the best performance out of all without being a cruel master! I hope people in navy maybe understand me better who command the ships!!!

  • Mahmood ur Rehman

    O Captain! my Captain! our fearful trip is done,
    The ship has weathered every rack, the prize we sought is won,
    The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
    While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring;
    But O heart! heart! heart!
    O the bleeding drops of red,
    Where on the deck my Captain lies,
    Fallen cold and dead.

    O Captain! my Captain! rise up and hear the bells;
    Rise up–for you the flag is flung–for you the bugle trills,
    For you bouquets and ribboned wreaths–for you the shores
    For you they call, the swaying mass, their eager faces turning;
    Here Captain! dear father!
    This arm beneath your head!
    It is some dream that on the deck
    You’ve fallen cold and dead.

    My captain does not answer, his lips are pale and still,
    My father does not feel my arm, he has no pulse nor will,
    The ship is anchored safe and sound, its voyage closed and done,
    From fearful trip the victor ship comes in with object won;
    Exult, O shores, and ring O bells!
    But I, with mournful tread,
    Walk the deck my Captain lies,
    Fallen cold and dead.

    Walt Whitman (1819-1892)

  • Saad

    Hi PHW,

    I was just surfing through net when I jumped in to our blog, and Good work I must say. In ur initial description of typical Pakistani famil, I think u missed out Naana and Naani jans which are also part of our family.
    It was looking incomplete to me so I just mention it.

    • phw

      Thanks for reminding….how can i forget them….i think i never went through it after it writing it once! Keep visiting ….

  • atta rasool malik

    Dear respected ma’am
    It is wonderful to see your write-up.
    You have cute thoughts and wonderful command over language. keep up the good work.
    How would you liked to be addressed?

  • Elixir

    basically i was looking for the best schools in islamabad and came here and trust me i felt really good atleast we pakistanis(with internet knowlegde) dont use internet for all the bad reasons:)

    • phw

      @Elixir :) U made my day!

  • eesha

    Acctually i was explore for the footage of plane crash in margala hills and saw this blog and was really impressed and intresting blog for every one .you have done good job .

  • mahmood

    Dear ma’am,

    Let me confess, your blog is getting better and not older, the things have matured a lot and certainly there is a lot for a commoner to learn about Pakistani house wife. Do you have any mood for starting a blog for the poor husbands as well?



    • phw

      Mr Mahmood, I will leave that for the men to do!

  • Taher

    I came to your blog while searching for the right school for my preschooler. I adore your work and command on expressing your thoughts. I have observed above some male fellows teasing you except Mr. Wadaan Khan who is badly suffering from some 30% (If i am not wrong) of our “Modern” and “Educated” female society which is undergoing experimental phases now a days……. True! There are many cruel, bad captains etc etc but also some Shareef (gentle) guys there who instead of using aggression, stay silent just for the sake of his and her family’s dignity (in respect of his and her parents, brothers, sisters and children) All comments are welcome!! Please correct me where I am wrong…..

  • Sheena

    Wow! PHW Im really impressed. So this is what you do when you are free. Good job. Keep it up!

  • maryam

    hi ,
    i have done my diploma frm PMC…pakistan montessori council and i have 2 years teaching experience so , now i want to change my JOB and teach in good school …
    so please suggest me …..
    i am graduate also

  • tahir

    hope you will be able to come to my talk:

  • M.Farooq

    The best

  • ALI

    Dear Members:

    Please can some one let me know what it cost currently in 2012 to have triple bypass in Pakistan Lahore, Islamabad & Karachi.

    From the internet:-
    I had my triple bypass at Punjab Institute of Cardiology , Lahore, Pakistan ( October, 2006, and it costed around Rs 300,000 ($5000),
    with 2 days at ICU and 5 days in the hospital room (7 days total).
    PIC is undertaking 150 operations in a month, and success rate is 99%.

    peace harmony & tolerance