Balancing act of a husband

When a male is born in a Pakistani family, his birth is celebrated. He is loved and pampered by his mom and sisters. One day another female enters the life of this man and (in majority of cases) he fails to maintain a balance. Here is a life story of a typical male in our society.

Jab tu paida hua kitna majboor tha
Yeh jahan teri sochoun se bhi door tha

Haath paoun bhi tab tere apney na they
Teri aankhoun main dunya ke sapney na they

Tujh ko aata tha jo sirf rona hi tha
Doodh pe ke tera kaam sona hi tha

Tujh ko chalna sikhaya tha maa ne teri
Tujh ko dil main basaya tha maa ne teri

Maa ke sayee main parwaan charney laga
Waqt ke saath qadd tera bharney laga

Dheerey dheerey tu karial jawaan ho gaya
Tujh pe sara jahaan mehrbaan ho gaya

Zor-e-bazu pe tu baat kerney laga
Khud se sajney laga, khud sawrney laga

Aik din ek haseena tujhey bha gaye
Ban ke dulhan woh tere ghar aa gaye

Farz apney se tu door honey laga
Beej(seed) nafrat ka khud hi tu boney laga

Phir tu maa baap ko bhi bhulaney laga
Teer baatoun ke phir tu chalaney laga

Baat be baat en se tu larney laga
Qaida ek naya phir tu perhney laga

Yaad ker tujh se maa ney kaha tha ek din
Abb hamara guzara nahin tere bin

Sunn ke yeh baat tu taish main aa gaya
Tera ghussa teri aqal ko kha gaya

Josh main aa ke tu ne yeh maa se kaha
Main tha khamosh sab dekhta hi raha

Aaj kehta houn peecha mera chor do
Jo hai rishta mera tum se woh tor do

Jao ja ke kahin kaam dhanda karo
Log mertey hain tum bhi kahin ja maro

Baith ker aahain bhartey they woh raat bhar
Un ki aahoun ka tujh pe hua na asr

Aik din baap tera chala rooth ker
Kaisi bikhri thi phir teri maa toot ker

Phir woh be-bus ajal ko bulati rahi
Zindage iss ko her roz sta-ti rahi

Aik din mout ko phir tars aa gaya
Iss ka rona bhi taqdeer ko bha gaya

Ashq aankhoun main they woh rawana hui
Mout ka ek hichki bahana hui

Ek sakoo iss ke chehrey pe chaaney laga
Phir to mayat(dead body) ko iski sajaney laga

Muda-tein ho gayein aaj bhoora hai tu
Jo para tuti khatiya pe koora(garbage) hai tu

Tere bachey bhi ab tujj se dartey nahin
nafaratein hain, muhabbat woh kerty nahin

Dard main tu pukarey ke “oh! mere maa!”
Tere dam se roshan they dono jahan

Waqt chalta rahey, waqt rukta nahin
Toot jata hai woh jo ke jhukta nahin

Ban ke ibrat ka tu ab nishaan reh gaya
Dhoondhey(find) zor tera kahan reh gaya

Tu ehkaam-e-Rabbi bhulata raha
Apney maa baap ko tu sta-ta raha

Kaat le tu wohi, tu ne boya tha jo
Tujh ko kaisey miley tu ne khoa tha jo

Yaad ker ke gaya dorr roney laga
Kal jo tu ney kia aaj honey laga

Mout mangey tujhey aati nahin
Maa ki surat nighahoun se jati nahin

Tu jo khansey to aulad dant-ty tujhey
Tu hai nasoor, sukh koun bant-tey tujhey

Mout aye gi tujh ko magar waqt per
Ban hi jaye gi teri qabr waqt per

Qadar maa baap ki gar koi jaan ley
Apni jannat ko dunya main pehchaan ley

Aur leta rahey woh baroun ki dua
Isske dono jahan, isska hammi Khudah

Yaad rakhna to saghir ki iss baat ko
Bhool jaana na rehmat ki barsaat ko!

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Surah e Qadr

Today is 20th of Ramadan in Pakistan and after maghrib last ashra of Ramadan will start. These are the most valuable 10 days of this blessed month. Lailatul Qadr lies in one of the odd nights of this last ashra. Allah has given us another chance to be alive and we should avail this chance of repenting and seeking forgiveness in these nights. Only Allah knows how many of us will see the next Ramazan.

Messenger of ALLAH (Blessings of Allah and peace be on him) told us to search for Shab-e-Qadr in the odd numbered nights, in the last ten days of Ramdan. So, the 21st, 23rd, 25th, 27th or 29th night of Ramadan could be Shab-e-Qadr.

Hazrat Aisha Radiallah Anha stated that Rasool Allah peace be upon him said, “Look for Lailat-Ul-Qadr in the odd nights of the last ten days of Ramadhan.” (Al-Bukhari)

Narrated by Abu Huraira (Radhiallaho anho):
“Allah’s Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam)said, “Whoever establishes prayers during the nights of Ramadan faithfully out of sincere faith and hoping to attain Allah’s rewards (not for showing off), all his past sins will be forgiven.”
( Al-Bukhari)

If you want to know the importance of this night then Allah subhanahu says in the Glorious Quran it is better then a thousand months!!! Thousand months means more then the whole life of an average human being. Allah is Arrehman Arraheem and He gives us oppertunities to escape from hell, only if we are ready to grab them.

Allah says in the Holy Quran:

” Verily! We have sent it (this Qur’aan) down in the Night of Decree (Lailatul-Qadr). And what will make you know what the Night of Decree is? The Night of Decree is better than a thousand months. Therein descend the angels and the Rooh (i.e. Gabriel) by Allaah’s Permission with all Decrees, Peace! until the appearance of dawn.” (Al-Qadr 97: 1-5)

Lailatul Qadr is called the Night of power:

“because its power and greatness lie in the fact that it was in this very night that the Holy Qur’an was sent down”;

“…because an enormous number of angels descend in this night to earth”;

“… because the manifestation of grace, mercy and forgiveness from the Lord of the worlds in this night is incomparable with other nights by its significance”;

“… because a believer, who spends this night praying, acquires, with the mercy of God the Most High, most great and powerful forces and energy”.

The word al-qadr can be also translated as tightness, closeness. Taking into account this meaning of the word Alims said: ”In this night such a great number of angels descend to earth that there is simply no room for them all.

What should be done in this night

Best way to start this night is to bring the best out of yourself. As if you are preparing for a big day in life. Take a bath, wear nice clothes and get rid of all the world’s chores before your special meeting with the Creator is about to start. You can be promoted or may get an increment too!

Do more noble deeds, perform additional prayers, read the Holy Qur’an, pray to God the Most High for forgiveness and ask Him for blessing (Tawfik) in one’s deeds as well as for Barakah, appealing to Allah the Most High in any language in which it is most convenient for you to express your thoughts, hopes and wishes.

Hazrat Aisha Radiallah Anha stated that I asked Rasool Allah peace be upon him, “If I find Lailatul Qadar then what should I do? HE peace be upon him said, recite this Dua.“ALLAH HUMMA INNAKA A’FUVUN TOHIB BUL AFVA FA’AFU ANNI” (Tirmidhi)

Lailatul qadr dua

Get ready! we may not get the next chance!

Aisha radhiallaahu anha said, “No believer makes Dua and
it is wasted. Either it is granted here in this world
or deposited for him in the Hereafter as long as he does not get
frustrated.”

1. Perform Wudu, face Qibla, be neat and clean
2. Raise both hands up to the shoulder with palms open facing up
3. Use words of Allah and Muhammad (SAW)-
i.e. Duas found in Quran and Hadith
4. Ask by Asma alHusna- Allah’s Beautiful Names
5. Ask Allah by your good deeds
6. Be insistent-repeat (i.e. 3x’s)
7. Glorify Allah and recite Durud for the Prophet (SAW) at
both the beginning and end
8. Show humility, entreaty, desire and fear while making Dua
9. Repent and try to make amends where one has wronged
10. Confess mistakes, shortcomings, and sins
11. Keep voice between a whisper and speaking aloud
12. Show the need for Allah’s help and implore Him for release
from weakness, hardship and tribulation.
13. Seize the opportunity of time, situation and circumstance in
which prayers are answered
14. Avoid rhymed prose to keep concentration
15. Crying when making Dua
16. The Dua of Dhun-Nun (Yunus) by which he invoked Allah from
within the belly of the whale was: “LAa ilaha illa
Anta, Subhanaka innee kuntu min aDH-DHaalimeen.”
No Muslim ever makes Dua with it but Allah
answers it.” [at tirmidhi in his sunan, ahmad
and hakim reported it and hakim declared it
authentic and adh dhahabee agreed]

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Match Fixer Mazhar Majeed

I’ve been doing it [match-fixing] with them for about two-and-a-half years and we’ve made masses of money,” Majeed said. A shocking claim made by a 35 year-old man who was arrested by police last night on suspicion of conspiracy to defraud bookmakers.

According to Telegraph Mazhar Majeed, a London-based businessman, has been accused of accepting £150,000 from an undercover journalist in return for telling Pakistan fast bowlers Mohammad Amir and Mohammad Asif to deliberately bowl three no-balls last Thursday and Friday.

Mazhar further says “I manage 10 of the players, I do all their affairs like contracts, sponsorship, marketing, everything really. The players would never tell anybody else. They were the ones who actually approached me about this.”

The News of the World reporters filmed meetings with London-based middleman Mazhar Majeed, who told them in exactly which overs of the Fourth Test the no-balls would be delivered. “This is no coincidence,” Mr Majeed told them as the action developed as he had described.

The Daily Mail goes on to write “Scotland Yard are understood to have launched an investigation into accusations that pace bowlers Mohammad Asif and Mohammad Amir colluded with fixers by bowling no-balls to order. Pakistan captain Salman Butt and wicketkeeper Kamran Akmal are also alleged to have been involved.”

Pakistan tour manager Yawar Saeed added: “I can confirm we are aware of the allegations. Scotland Yard (Metropolitan) police are with us now at our hotel and we are helping them with their enquiries. ”This is as much as I can say at the moment.”

Salman butt with mazhar majeed

This shameful revelation makes one wonder what has gone wrong to Pakistan cricket which has a glorious past. Our cricket history is full of heroes and victories but recent events call for a complete change in the management and the playing eleven. They should be punished in such a way that newcomers dare not indulge in such activities. If we keep on calling players like Asif again and again then we will never have a international quality team.

Players cannot make such fixed-deals without involving the management so when the trial begins everyone from the top management should be tested. A complete clean up of the whole system is required. Take their pays back,  seize their accounts and make them an example for all. Allah blessed them with talent, oppertunity and fame but they did not deserve it. I am not accusing anyone until after the judgement. Scotland Yard already made an arrest from the hotel Pakistan Cricket team is staying and I hope more arrests will take place. Mazhar claims 7 out of playing eleven or may be 10.!!!!

Once investigation has started lets dig deep as we all remember the 1999 World cup final at Lords, the way Pakistan lost after playing superbly in the event, and many more such matches. Lets wash our dirty linen in public this time….nothing behind closed doors.

Pakistani cricket fans are so heart broken that they will not make any more cricket heroes in near future. Good bye cricket, the cricket we loved and lived!

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face 2 face with terrorism

Terrorism takes away lives, unfortunately counted in numbers ” 100 dead, 200 injured“. We all stop for a second to see the flashing “news alert” on tv and then move one with our lives.

No one cares that these were 100 living people who are no more alive and who bothers about their loved ones. Loved ones who are living but their life is taken away! Loved ones who are so suddenly snatched away from them! They are emotionally shaken and worries of an insecure future (for women) do not let them mourn in a poor country.

200 injured gives a little relief and we thank Allah that these precious lives are saved but in what condition are they? Without a limb? half blown up? injuried all over? which may take months and thousands of rupees to heal. Who will support their families in the mean time? Who will pay for their medical expenses?

People who come face to face with terrorism, either they have lost someone or are physically injured go through mental turmoil. I just read the feelings of a husband who lost his wife in suicide bombing in the United Nations World Food Program country office in Islamabad. I am speechless….

He writes….

Reality (by Tahir Wadood Malik)

the call called me out
and i ran.
a scene of chaos
before me i saw
no one familiar
no one known
pell-mell running feet
stopping all from going in.

a hand held my arm
i looked at a face
worn and sad
she is taken from here
to the medical centre
or the hospital
hurry sir
he said.

i turned and ran
the medical centre was near,
first there i thought
and walked briskly
a voice called out
i turned
the medical centre sir
she is taken there.

a hop and i was there
running to the steps up
when another voice called
sir here
turning i saw him pointing
he came close and said
be strong sir
and turned his face.

down the slope i went,
entering a small room,
packed full with people
smelling of antiseptic,
gurneys covered in white sheets
a doctor looked at me
i took your name.

she looked at me
sad and sorry
pointing to the nearest
white sheet, she walked to it.
i stood as if riveted to the floor
is she gone i asked
she nodded,
and held the corner of the sheet.

leaden feet one after the other
just three steps
to see your face
drained of life’s color
the smile gone
nothing to give me hope.
just an endless dark tunnel,
with no light at the end.

you had left the world
you had left me, who you said
was your world,
i was left
without a thought
without any idea of next.
looking at your white face
closed eyes, look at me i said.

did you smile?
did you know i was standing there?
did you feel the tear
that fell on your cheek?
did you feel my hand on your face?
could you feel my willing you to wake?
or was it all cold, all dark,
and finished for you?

i stood there,
suddenly tired and racked with sobs
no one to hold me
no one to console me
no one to say hush
all alone.
not even you to say i am here.
together we will overcome.

and then the haze
people coming and going
a leg lay on the table next to you
supposedly of the bomber
people came and looked at it
no one bothered about us
but that leg was it for all then.
and i was frozen in pain, anger and angst.

ormalities
ambulance ride
people gathering
crying.
wailing
intruding in my feelings
despair, grief, anger,
and a loss infinite.

rituals,
more people,
waiting for the inevitable
arrivals
more and more
but where in all this are you?
lying cold and unconcerned in a bed
draped in a white coffin

i looked at you
wanting you to smile
wanting you to open your eyes
desperation
wishing for the noise of the wails
beating chests and prayers
to wake you
from the depth of death.

but your face
serene, calm
without worries at last
fresh like the morning dew
not even lines of any hue
eyes closed,
even the white cloth,
pale against your skin.

and they came also
who had not come before
all standing
some silent
some crying
all sad
all lost
no words no actions enough.

and then it was time
picking you up
one on each of the four posts
reciting the oneness of god
who had taken you from me
so cruelly,
still being exalted and called to succor,
knowing i had but to suffer.

and then the prayers,
and a ride to the last resting place
a pit dark and dreary
i shuddered
you would hold my arm
even to step a step up
and this was so much down!
how could i hold you now?

and it was all over
dust to dust
prayers
consoling words
a dirge
another prayer
dispersal
how could i leave you?

but i did leave you
alone
in a pit covered with fresh dug soil
put on there with my own hands
my prayers mixed with the rest
a feel of death, a pain, a void,
in my heart
where you lived.

and food was served
people forgot death
food, the source of life
for the living was being taken
no one bothered to say
sorry
the food was important
my loss was reality and not.

and then they left
leaving me to my self
my thoughts
my feelings
my emptiness
my fight with my god
my forlornness
and my grief

and good too that was
for there was too much
going on in me
fears
feelings
remorse
thoughts
nostalgia

and the night passed
just as you had passed from this
to another world
just as i had passed
from a happy man
to a sad being
wondering why
this had come to pass?

but then life reared its head
wanting to extract its pound of flesh
not wanting to wait for the next
but wanting me not to rest
and i shrugged
and i looked
and i picked up the shackles of life
and i went to put my shoulder to the plough.

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ramadan 2010

Fasting in the month of Ramadan is one of the pillars of Islam. Hazrat Muhammad (Peace be upon him) said : “It is Allah’s own month”. I believe we should prepare and plan before the arrival of Ramadan. Preparing means to organize our daily routine in such a way that we get more time for prayer, recitation of Quran, nawafil, meditation and living peacefully with the people around us. Its better to finish all the shopping before Ramadan starts and keep iftar cooking simple.
I have this very useful list of required daily activities during Ramadan. I will put this room on my working table to make sure that I get to do maximum activities from checklist. You take a print and check your score this Ramadan.

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Watching flood coverage on tv screens all day makes us immune and we do not realize the magnitude of the disaster.

Please help these people in whatever way you can. On such days I wish to be “man” so I am free to leave the comforts of my house and do some “real” help.

pakistan flood victims

Pak army supplying food

Millions of people are effected by these floods and today I saw markets in Islamabad full of people shopping happily. There was no shadow of sorrow in their eyes and no urgency in their movements. Are we the same nation who got together after the “oct 8 earthquake”? Are we numb now? It seems like we have stopped feeling the sorrow of others. It long since are nerves are not relaxed, things happen one after the other and we are so used to watching these horrible things and carrying on with our lives.
I wish this vicious circle of disasters, crashes, blasts, drones and killings come to an end. Please help people of our beloved country and pray as ramadan is approaching. Pray for peace, pray for hope, pray for happiness, pray for life!!

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men women

Here is a joke for wise women and men who have sense of humor!

The Loyal Wife

There was a man who had worked all of his life, had saved all of his money,and was a real miser when it came to his money.

Just before he died, he said to his wife, ‘When I die, I want you to take all my money and put it in the casket with me. I want to take my money to the +after-life+ with me.’

And so he got his wife to promise him with all of her heart that when he died, she would put all of the money in the casket with him.

Well, he died . . .
He was stretched out in the casket, his wife was sitting there in black, and her friend was sitting next to her. When they finished the ceremony, just before the undertakers got ready to close the casket, the wife said, ‘Wait,just a minute!’

She had a box with her, she came over with the box and put it in the casket.

Then the undertakers locked the casket down, and they rolled it away.

Her friend said, ‘I know you weren’t fool enough to put all that money in there in the casket with your husband.’

The loyal wife replied ‘Listen, I can’t go back on my word. I promised him that I was going to put that money in that casket with him.’

‘You mean to tell me you put that money in the casket with him!!! ?’

‘I sure did’ said the wife. ‘I got it all together, put it into my account and wrote him a cheque. If he can cash it, he can spend it.’

Moral of the story: *Women are wiser than Men* ……

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Mutilated Afghan girl

You can see the cover story of Time magazine showing a girl brutally mutilated by her in-laws in Afghanistan. They printed this picture to show us “What will happen if We (US and others) leave Afghanistan”.

This is an individual event which happened under the Karzai rule not the taliban. Saying this I do not in anyway support such cruelty. No religion in the world allows this and Islam gives more respect and honour to women then the rest. Women in India are subjected to more serious domestic violence. Are there any American plans of saving them too!

If the coalition forces are justifying their stay in Afghanistan to save Afghan women then it does not make sense. Can anyone of us recall how many thousand or maybe hundredthousands people are killed by these American forces with their partners? By the way those people had they ears and noses intact but they were no longer living.

To show the whole picture the next issue of the magazine will no doubt feature those scores of wedding parties blown to pieces and thousands of horribly mutilated civilians by the coalition forces rushing to the aid of the culturally deprived Afghan people? Those bombs never spared Afghan women or young children, if they have the right to kill innocent Afghan men!

Angel of Death

What will happen if we stay in Afghanistan?

Lets have a look at their future plans in Afghanistan or plan for the betterment of Afghanistan and human race on the whole. This “Angel of Death” will not be tried on their countries off course. Its high explosive 105mm shells, each packed with 5lb of TNT, rocket towards their target at 1,548ft per second. On contact, the shells can destroy buildings and spread shrapnel over a ‘kill’ area of up to 1,500 yards. I hope these bombs are women sensitive!!!

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flood water

Pakistan was still mourning the people killed in the plane crash when floods started taking lives. 800 people (so far) has been killed and thousands left  homeless in the deadliest such disaster to hit the region since 1929.

Three days of heavy monsoonal rains across the northwest caused scores of rivers to burst their banks, tearing down 60 bridges and scores of roads and buildings. Hundreds of villages and towns, along with massive swaths of agricultural land, were under several feet of water. Rushing water also has washed away thousands of acres of crops and dozens of government buildings, local businesses and schools.

The Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province has been the worst hit. Boats and helicopters are struggling to reach hundreds of thousands of villagers cut off by floods. Various towns and districts are cut off from the main roads. People are trying to hold on to their loved ones and reach a dry safe where food is available. Others are trapped on their  roof tops and are waiting for rescue or relief.

Pakistan’s weather bureau said an “unprecedented” 312 millimetres (12 inches) of rain had fallen in 36 hours in the northwest but predicted only scattered showers during coming days.
A united and organised effort is required again by the Pakistani nation when thousands of people are dying of hunger and lack of shelter. Lets join our hands and help our fellow pakistanis in need. People will give away zakat as the month of Ramadan is approaching then why not give it now. “Poor” of flood effected areas are now “homeless”. They deserve our zakat, sadaqat and help more then the street beggers.

Destruction of floods 2010

flood in pakistan

flood victims

Flood effected people in KP

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Crash on margallas

This breath taking view of Margalla Hills shows how the recent rains brought relief and happiness to the Isloo people till today morning. When a commercial plane  (Air Blue Airbus flight A-321) crashed with 159 people on board. Yesterday’s beautiful scene is filled with horror and sorrow today. It is still raining… the scene is the same, same clouds covering the top of hills, same streets, same green patches. Every spot in Islamabad is a perfect screenshot for the nature lovers. But the smoke rising from the crashed plane has ended lives of more than 100 people travelling from Karachi to Islamabad and the same lovely weather is termed to be the reason behind this tragic incidence.

Crash- dailymail photo

Yesterday night at 10 pm I heard a plane pass over our houses and it was a really “low” flight. We thought, God forbid, it may fall over our heads but fortunately that plane survived. Todays flight was not so lucky and I hope and pray that the rescue workers find more survivors. These hills are normally no-fly zone and planes rarely venture here even in good weather. Why was this plane so close to the Margallas and that too in such bad weather and fog?

The road I heard is closed for public today and I wish we should cooperate with the authorities and not go there. Unwanted crowds will only delay the operations.Lets pray for the departed souls,May Allah shower his blessings on them.

As a youngster I used to travel to Pakistan every year. I know when we are a few minutes away from landing all fears are gone and everybody is ready to fulfill their plans. There were 159 humanbeings, 159 stories and 159 families effected!

Margalla hills after crash

Ishtiaq Ahmed an eye witness says ” At about 9.50am I was sitting in porch of house sighting clouds and drizzling, suddenly saw a plane flying very low almost touching Margallah Hills and soon after 15 seconds heard a massive explosion!” I am sharing a picture here which is taken by Ishtiaq Ahmed after the explosion.

Latest update on 28 july 2010 at 1:30 pm is that 12 people who had confirm seats did not travel in this Airblue plane which crashed on the Margalla Hills. At this time there are 7 survivors and 20 dead bodies are recovered and search is going on.

Later Mr Rehman Malik announced that sadly there are no survivors. Ina lillahe wa ina ella-ye he rajaoun

Realted links:

List of the passngers on the air blue flight

http://geo.tv/7-28-2010/69067.htm

http://news.dawn.com/wps/wcm/connect/dawn-content-library/dawn/news/pakistan/04-plane-crash-margalla-qs-02

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCHI1kdQZFI

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1298234/Pakistan-plane-crash-kills-25-heavy-rain-Margalla-Hills.html

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